Someone you love just died.
Here's what to handle first.

The first few weeks bring dozens of practical tasks — certificates, accounts, benefits, and paperwork — while you're still grieving. Lumeway helps you know what to handle first and what can wait.

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A timeline of what
needs to happen

Each phase has specific tasks and deadlines. Lumeway helps you stay on track so nothing falls through the cracks.

1
First 24-48 hours

Immediate needs

Obtain the death certificate (you'll need 10–15 certified copies). Contact a funeral home to begin arrangements. Locate the will if one exists.

2
First 1-2 weeks

Notify key institutions

Contact Social Security, the employer, banks, and life insurance companies to start claims. Consult an estate attorney if probate is needed.

3
First month

Financial and legal steps

Apply for survivor benefits. Transfer or retitle jointly owned assets. Review your own will and beneficiaries while everything is fresh.

4
First 3-6 months

Longer-term planning

File the final tax return. Close or transfer remaining accounts. Update property titles and deeds. Your Lumeway dashboard tracks every step.

Critical deadlines

Time-sensitive steps you can't miss

60 days
COBRA health insurance

If you were covered under the deceased's employer health plan, you have 60 days from loss of coverage to elect COBRA continuation. Missing this window means losing access entirely.

6 months
Social Security survivor benefits

Benefits don't back-pay more than 6 months. Apply as soon as possible.

9 months
Estate tax return

Federal estate tax return (Form 706) is due 9 months after date of death if the estate exceeds the exemption threshold.

2 years
Tax filing status change

If the deceased was your spouse, you may file as qualifying surviving spouse for up to 2 years after death if you have a dependent child. Consult a CPA.

Varies
Probate filing

Most states require the will to be filed with probate court within 30-90 days of death.

ASAP
Update beneficiaries

Outdated beneficiaries on retirement accounts and life insurance can cause serious problems. Do this soon.

Trusted resources

Where to go for help

🏛️
Social Security Survivors

Apply for survivor benefits and find your local SSA office.

ssa.gov/survivors →
🇺🇸
USA.gov Survivor Benefits

Official guide to all federal survivor benefits including veterans and federal employees.

usa.gov/survivor-benefits →
🤝
Modern Widows Club

Community, resources, and peer support specifically for widowed individuals navigating life after loss.

modernwidowsclub.com →
💙
GriefShare

Find grief support groups near you. Over 15,000 groups worldwide.

griefshare.org →
🔍
Benefits.gov

Federal screening tool to find all government benefit programs you may qualify for.

benefits.gov →

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Frequently asked
questions

Quick answers to help you understand what to expect and what to prioritize.

Order 10–15 certified copies from your county vital records office or the funeral home. Each institution — banks, insurance, Social Security, probate court — needs its own original; photocopies aren't accepted. Your Lumeway dashboard tracks which institutions still need one.
Not always. If the estate is small and the will is uncontested, you can often handle it yourself using the probate court's self-help forms. For larger or complex estates, Lumeway helps you decide when hiring a probate attorney is worth it.
As soon as possible. Social Security survivor benefits don't back-pay more than 6 months, so every month of delay beyond that is lost money. Your Lumeway dashboard walks you through the application and what documents you'll need.
Prioritize housing, utilities, insurance premiums, and any joint debts. Don't pay debts that were solely in the deceased's name until you understand the estate's obligations — you may not be personally responsible. Lumeway helps you sort out what's yours to handle and what isn't.
Generally, you're only responsible for joint debts and debts you co-signed. Debt collectors cannot legally force you to pay the deceased's individual debts from your own funds. Lumeway includes state-specific rules — community property states have different obligations for spouses.
Probate assets are owned solely by the deceased and go through court, which can take months. Non-probate assets — joint accounts, life insurance with a named beneficiary, retirement accounts, trusts — transfer directly. Your Lumeway dashboard helps you sort out which is which.
You can gift them a Lumeway plan — a Bundled Plan ($39) or All Access ($125) — which gives them a step-by-step dashboard, checklists, and templates. Go to lumeway.co/pricing and choose "Gift a Plan."

Your personal dashboard

Track every step in one place

Checklists, in-depth guides, a resource directory, and a glossary of terms — all organized around your specific situation.

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You
My mom passed away two weeks ago. I'm the executor of her estate.
L
I'm so sorry for your loss. You don't have to figure everything out at once — let's take it one step at a time together. Can I ask, what state are you in?
You
California.
L
Thank you. In California, the will needs to be filed with probate court within 30 days. But the very first thing — have you been able to get certified copies of the death certificate? You'll need about 10–15 copies for insurance, banks, and government agencies.
You
I got 5 copies. Is that enough?
L
You'll likely want more — I'd recommend at least 10. You can order additional copies from the county recorder's office. Would you like me to walk you through what to do next?

See how Lumeway helps

Start with a free conversation — Lumeway walks you through your situation step by step. Then track everything in your personal dashboard: deadlines, documents, activity log, and state-specific resources.

You don't have to do
this alone

Lumeway walks alongside you through every step — from the first phone calls to the longer-term decisions ahead.

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If you're in crisis or need immediate support, call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline) — available 24/7.

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